AFTER ASKING MYSELF THESE QUESTIONS, I FEEL HAPPIER

Hello lovelies,

In order to feel happier, I take a look at what I have and should be thankful for, instead of me focusing on what I lack. There are a lot of questions that, when answered, will yield positive results for you. Below are seven things you can ask yourself to feel happier:

1. Am I loved?
I feel happier when I ask myself if I have loved ones in my life. Do you have people around you who truly, deeply care about you and whom you care equally as much about? Our relationships define us, and the quality of those relationships is in many way synonymous with the quality of our lives. Don’t settle for toxic friendships or unhealthy companionship; you deserve better than that. Build and maintain the positive relationships in your life to feel happier.

2. Am I depended on?
When I’m thinking about the level of trust and faith others have in me, I feel a lot happier. Is there anyone that asks you for advice? That looks up to you? That needs your guidance? It’s nice to know you’re needed, and chances are that you’re needed by at least someone. Even if pessimism and self-doubt is more natural to you, try your best not underestimate your worth. Remind yourself of the people who depend on you and take pride in trying to live up to their expectations. When you meet them, and especially when you exceed them, your spirits will soar.

3. Am I without hope?
A negative question can sometimes lead to positive emotions. When you straight up ask yourself if things are hopeless, you’ll have a lot of trouble giving a definitive yes. You’ll start to think about all the reasons you have to say no to the question, reminding you of the hopeful things in your life.

4. How far have I come from ______?
Think about your lowest point, even if doing so is uncomfortable. Then think about how far you’ve come from there. If you’re in a rut, remember how you’ve had it worse than you do now, and how all signs indicate that things will turn around this time, too.

5. Do I have options?
A lot of people’s decisions are made for them. They’re stuck at a dead-end job, trapped in debt, or bound by something equally constricting. Even if one of those situations applies to you, focus on the constrictions you don’t have that a lot of others are unfortunately held back by. I feel happier when I consider how many doors are open to me. Even if everything seems closed, you just have to keep looking. If you’re creative and persistent enough, you’ll find an opening into a better, more fulfilling life.
 
6. What am I thankful for?
You don’t have to limit this question to Thanksgiving dinners; it’s one of the best things you can ask yourself all year. I feel happier when I consider what specifics I should be grateful for in my life.

If you don’t immediately dwell on the negative you’ll quickly compile a healthy list of things you should be grateful for. You can even write them down, so you have a specific thing you can look at to feel happier.

THINGS TO DO TO MAKE AN INTROVERT FEEL LOVED

Extroverts and introverts have different needs. Where extroverts are social creatures, introverts are most certainly not. Extroverts may love small talk, but introverts hate it. It is important to be mindful of these differences so we can treat people well and be sensitive to their needs and feelings. If you know an introvert, do these things to make them feel so loved and appreciated.

1. Send them a meaningful email or chat with them via social network.
If you really want to get to know an introvert, send them an email. Introverts are bored by small talk, but love deep discussions. Most introverts are better writers than speakers. Thus, email trumps every other mode of communication for this personality type.

2. Ask for a table on the outskirts of a restaurant.
If you take an introvert to a packed restaurant, then they could feel uncomfortable due to all that stimulation. Avoid the center of a dining room. Ask the host or hostess if a window seat is available. Being away from the chaos will remove some pressure.

3. Slow down your speaking rate so they have time to process.
If you talk really fast, then you could accidentally overwhelm your introvert friends. Extroverts like to speak as thoughts occur to them. Introverts like to let a thought settle for a moment before they respond. Simply pausing for three seconds will give an introvert time to digest your sentences.

4. Don’t call them “shy” or “antisocial.”
If you label introverts in this way, then you obviously don’t understand them. Most introverts love to meet people. It’s just that while extroverts enjoy small talk, introverts would rather discuss deeper issues in a more intimate setting.

5. Find out what they are passionate about.
If you think an introvert is boring, then you haven’t dug deep enough. Introverts can be profound when you get them talking about their passion or purpose. They might even care about something so intensely that they view everything else as a distraction. And yes, this could make them appear to be aloof at times too.

6. Get comfortable with moments of silence.
If you want to show an introvert you care, do it with silence. It is possible to enjoy the presence of another person without filling the air with meaningless words. Greet a friend with a smile and gentle hug. Get in the car, turn on the radio, and enjoy the music. It’s time to let go of your need for constant conversation.

7. Be quiet during movies and television.
If you can’t resist commenting on every scene of a film, then you will drive introverts insane. Remember that they need silence to process information. Even if they seem quiet, their brain is busy formulating theories about where the story could be going. Save the commentary for after the movie. They will appreciate it.

8. Stop acting like something is “wrong.”
If you try to “fix” an introvert, then it will backfire. This especially occurs when extroverted parents assume something is wrong with their introverted children. They mistakenly label these kids “shy” without truly understanding them. Treating them like a project will only make them feel inferior. Accept them as they are.

9. Don’t leave them hanging at a social event.
If you abandon an introvert at a party, then they won’t be happy. You might be a social butterfly, but your introvert friend isn’t. It was scary enough for them to go to a crowded place where they don’t know anybody. If you leave them by themselves, they will feel highly intimidated, and maybe even go outside where it is less noisy.

10. Do invite them to small group gatherings.
If you think introverts don’t like people, then you’re misunderstood. They might not feel comfortable at a big party, but they typically enjoy low-key gatherings that involve five or less people.This gives introverts opportunity to have deep conversations and make new connections without draining their energy as much as a big party would.


Its impossible to speak for all introverts, Tell us what you would like to add to the list.

EVERY NICE PERSON MUST LEARN THIS

“Nice person” act sweet and nice to get what they want or be viewed in a certain way. Often they do this without even realizing they are doing it. The “nice person” has bought into his/her own lie that he/she(’s) really being a good friend; that he/she treats people better; that he/she cares, while in fact he/she is being phony. And that’s a big problem.

No one wants to feel like they are being manipulated or played by someone who is just acting, nor does anyone want to be known as someone who isn’t true to themselves. That’s where the “nice person” parts ways with the man who happens to be a genuinely nice person.

Are you genuine? Why do you do what you do? Do you truly care or are you just pretending because you want something? “Nice person” are fake, overly sensitive, vulnerable and predictable. Genuinely nice guys are authentic, ambitious, confident, honest and considerate. Here are some lessons every “nice person” should learn:

1. Many people will love and support you, but many others will not.
This will happen no matter how nice and likable you think you are or how hard you try to be. You cannot please everyone. You might as well just be yourself and say and do what works for you. That way you will attract genuine people who like you for who you are.

2. Seeking validation from others invalidates you.
Others’ opinions of you do not have to be your reality. You are as valuable as the next person. The moment you learn that and live by it is the moment you will be free to live the life you were meant to. You are not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine. Affirmation might feel nice, but it is not essential.

3. Risk is the only way to change and improve your situation.
You cannot avoid risk without avoiding life. Understand that fact and you will learn the value of using every moment to improve your life and that of the people you care about. Don’t give up your life and surrender your happiness merely because you fear what people will say. Fear of rejection and failure is self-defeating. When it’s time to die, let us not discover that we have never lived.

4. You won’t always get what you want.
It doesn’t matter who you are—you won’t always get what you want in life. Sometimes you will try and fail. People will let you down, stab you in the back, and abandon you. Still, do what your consciences tells you to do, and do it the best way you can. If at first you don’t succeed, try and try again. If things still don’t work out, accept it. Learn from your mistakes and move on. Life’s too short to dwell on the disappointment of not getting your way.

5. Regret hurts far worse than fear.
If you give in to your fears whether it is fear of making a mistake, fear of disappointing others or fear of failing and allow it to stop you from trying, the regret you will feel later in life will be far worse than the fear you have now. Unfortunately, not many “nice person” escape learning this harsh lesson firsthand. It is only when you face your fears, take your chances and risk losing that you truly open the possibility to win.

6. We hurt most the ones we love the most.
This happens even to the best of us because profound love requires reciprocity. As human beings, however, the presence of conflicting perspectives and different needs means we cannot reciprocate profound love completely and exactly as is expected. We are, therefore, likely to hurt those we love the most, and be hurt the most by those who most love us. Learn this lesson now and it will help you cultivate a deeper compassion for yourself and inspire more compassion and understanding for others.

7. The people you’re trying to please so much won’t be around forever.
The support, love and help you get from others can only take you so far. You will have to go the rest of the way if you want to improve your life situation. Fortunately, nobody can transform your life the way you can. Until you know yourself and diligently act from a place of consciousness, you cannot change your situation, touch lives and grow into your truest self. Be bold. Stand on your own two feet and do things for yourself.

8. It may all be over tomorrow.
You never know what is around the corner: a car crash, a heart attack, a layoff; heck… the world could end tomorrow! So, have your priorities right. Spend quality time with loved ones and do things that bring you true joy and happiness: whether it’s making art or trading stocks, be YOU. Don’t be who the world wants you to be. Be a genuinely nice person.

WANNA BE FOREVER RICH? LEARN FROM THESE KIDS WHO ALREADY ARE

There are actually a surprising number of millionaires who haven’t even graduated high school yet. We’re not just talking about Richie Rich here. We’re talking self-made millionaires who aren't even old enough to open a bank account on their own. We’re talking about kids who understand business and how to make money. The mindset starts at a young age. Here are 12 young millionaires we can learn from;

1. Christian Owens of Mac Bundle Box
Christian made his first million before he was 16 years old. He taught himself web design at a young age and started his first design company at 14. He then went on to negotiate with various manufacturers and distributors to offer a bundle package of applications for Mac OS X (Steve Jobs was his motivator and inspiration). The Mac Bundle Box has since made him millions.

The lesson: Follow your passion, Find a way to offer something people already buy for a lower price.

2. Emil Motycka of Motycka Enterprises
Emil start a lawn mowing business at 9 years old. Lawn mowing may seem like a pretty typical business for a kid, but this kid took it to the next level. He took out a loan for $8,000 when he was 13 years old to purchase a commercial lawn mower. He formed Motycka Enterprises by the time he was 18 and went on to make well over $100,000 that summer. He’s now making millions.

The lesson: Following a strong passion can work, but on the other hand, doing something and doing it well is just as good if not better. Whatever you do, do it better than everyone else.

3. Evan of EvanTube
Evan started a YouTube channel called EvanTube when he was just 8 years old. Now he is making approximately $1.3 million a year from his channel with over a million subscribers. What are his videos about? Exactly what you might think – reviews of toys and other things that kids his age are interested in. Yes, you can get rich talking about Minecraft, Angry Birds and Legos!

The lesson: If you do what you love and do it well, you can turn it into a million dollar venture. That doesn’t mean it’s easy, but with persistence, you can make it happen.

4. Cameron Johnson of Cheers and Tears
Cameron was earning around $400,000/month in high school. It all started when he created invitation cards for a neighborhood party his parents were having.  When the guests saw the cards, they started asking him to make cards for them and paying him for it. He founded Cheers and Tears at 14 years old, then preceded to go into software development and online advertising, which made him a millionaire by the time he was in high school.

The lesson: If you do something well, you might as well do it big. Dive into new industries and try new things. They just might make you a millionaire.

5. Adam Hildreth of Dubit and Crisp
Adam was a millionaire by his 16th birthday after creating a teenage social networking site called Dubit (popular in the UK). After he had so much success with his social networking site, Adam went on to create Crisp, a company that helps protect kids against online predators. In 2004, he made the UK’s top 20 richest teens list.
The lesson: Sometimes it’s best to look for a popular trend and do it yourself. It’s also a good idea to find a need and create a solution. 

6. Moziah Bridges of Mo’s Bows
Moziah started a bow tie company at 9 years old and quickly grew his business to earning $150,000/year. Today, Moziah has several employees. He has been featured in several popular magazines and even went on Shark Tank. He’s working on a full clothing line at the moment, which I’m sure will end up being an impressive success as well.
The lesson: If you decide to start a business, keep growing and expanding. There is always room to make your business bigger, just be sure to have a great team to help you along the way.

7. Geoff, Dave, & Catherine Cook of My Yearbook
Before everyone was on Facebook, these three siblings started My Yearbook, a social media site based on the school(s) you went to. It was similar to Facebook at the time, but with more focus on grade school rather than college. The idea to start the website began when they moved to a new town and wanted to make some friends. The site took off and six years later. The Cooks ended up selling the site to the Quepasa Corps. for $100 million. Not bad at all.

The lesson: Find a need and fill it. Be proactive. These kids could have let themselves get down about not having friends in a new place, but instead they decided to do something about it.

8. Sanjay & Shavran Kumaran of GoDimensions
Sanjay and Shavran, at 12 and 14 years old, respectively, run their own gaming corporation. They have several apps, with over 35,000 downloads between them. They have developed the popular Catch Me Cop app, among others. Their apps are monetized purely through advertising, which makes them free for kids to download. Now they speak at events and conferences on ideas, making them happen and drawing up business plans.
The lesson: This one actually merges following your passion with doing what you do really well. It’s the best of both worlds.

9. Farrhad Acidwalla of Rockstah Media
Farrhad founded Rockstah Media, a marketing agency with 20 employees around the world and he did it at 16 years old. You may have heard of his company or you may know Farrhad from one of his TED Talks. He is known today as one of the most promising entrepreneurs of our time. When asked about the success of his company, Farrhad said “My team is the backbone of my company,” which can definitely teach us a thing or two.
The lesson: You can’t do it all on your own. Building a strong professional team is important if you really want to take you business to the next level.

10. Robert Nay of the Bubble Ball App
Robert raked in over $2 million in two weeks, following the release of his famous Bubble Ball game. He was only 14 years old at the time. Today, his game has been downloaded over 16 million times and Robert continues to develop new apps with his company, Nay Games. Bubble Ball has been seen on Good Morning America and continues to be one of the most popular games in the Apple Store.
The lesson: Some people really can achieve overnight success. That shouldn’t be your goal, but if you create something good enough, it could happen for you.

11. Nick D’Aloisio of Summly
Nick sold his company, Summly, to Yahoo for $30 million in 2013, making him one of the youngest self-made millionaires in the world. Summly went on to become Yahoo News Digest. Nick now works for Yahoo and has been named “Innovator of the Year” by the Wall Street Journal. He was included in TIME Magazine’s “Time 100″ as one of the world’s most influential teenagers. Nick is also the youngest person to receive a round of venture capital in technology from Hong Kong billionaire, Li Ka-Shing.
The lesson: Age doesn’t have to hold you back. Nick was even able to receive funding from a billionaire, despite his age.

12. Leanna Archer of Leanna’s Hair
Leanna was bottling and selling her own hair pomade at just 9 years old. She got her secret recipes from her great-grandmother and has since expanded to an entire line of hair products based on the same recipes. Leanna’s company brings in over $100,000 annually and her net worth is over $3 million. She has also founded the Leanna Archer Education Foundation. Her foundation helps provide basic needs, including education, to 200 Haitian kids each day.
The lesson: When you find success and make lots of money, be sure to give back. Money is a great tool for many things and it is a necessity to help others who have little to nothing.

These kids show us that age is not a limitation. You’re never too young or too old. If you really want to make a difference in the world, start now, no matter your age or any other limiting factor. The commonality among all of these kids is their mindset.They didn’t start with a mindset of “can’t”, they started with a mindset of “how can I?” You can do the same. Even if you’re still in high school.

Differences Between Dog Lovers And Cat Lovers

Hello beautiful people,
Do you love cats? Prefer Dogs? or you aren't a pet person?......It reveals something about your personality,below are 10 most significant differences between dog lovers and cat lovers 

1. Dog lovers listen
Dog people tended to be more obedient in nature. Dog lovers “followed the rules more closely”, while cat lovers “tended to be non-conformists, preferring to be expedient rather than follow the rules”.

2. Cat lovers are smart
This is where things get controversial. In the study, cat people scored higher on the test of intelligence than dog people. While this doesn’t necessarily hold true to all people in each group, higher intelligence test scores tended to fall within the cat-people category.

3. Dog lovers keep things lively
Dog people are more lively, friendlier and more energetic. Cat people, on the other hand, didn't seem to carry the same qualities as frequently.

4. Cat lovers keep an open mind
As with the intelligence finding, this doesn't necessarily mean that dog owners are the opposite. Rather, cat people were more consistently found to be a bit more open minded than were the dog lovers. This was based on general appreciation of art, unusual ideas, adventure, and an overall sense of curiosity and experience.

5. Dog lovers love people
Cats can be a bit standoffish. In this same way, their owners tend to be less outgoing as well. Dog owners, however, were found to enjoy the company of others more. The lifestyle of a dog owner is a bit more active to begin with as owners take their pets outside and to parks where they have more opportunity to socialize with others.

6. Cat lovers seek affection, dog lovers look for companionship
Cat people seek affection from their pets while dog people were more after companionship. It’s possible that people may select pets based on their own personality. For example, cats are often seen as independent animals that keep to themselves, and are cautious of others.”

7. Cat lovers are sensitive
Often times, people see sensitivity as a bad thing. This isn't necessarily the case. Cat people were found to be more sensitive, while dog owners showed fewer signs of sensitivity in provided tests.

8. Dog lovers represent a larger portion of people
Live Science reported that 60% of study respondents said they preferred dogs while just 11% reported a preference for cats (the rest said they either like both animals equally or didn’t like either animal). Looks like dog owners win the popularity vote!

9. Cat lovers prefer solitude
Cat owners were one third more likely to live alone and twice as likely to live in an apartment or flat. Dog ownership was more closely related to living in a house with a spouse and/or family members.

10. Dog lovers are dominant
Researchers noted that cat owners tended to possess fewer qualities associated with dominance than dog owners. These qualities included assertiveness, self-confidence, forcefulness, and persistence.

IT ROCKS BEING SINGLE--ITS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD

Hello single ladies,
You totally can enjoy your singlehood!
 
If single-hood was more acceptable then we would be much happier and at peace with being by ourselves. We would be at peace with being alone, instead of always trying to force the juice out of every union, force our ideals and expectations into every romantic interlude and feel pain and sorrow over lost connections.
When you are single you can do what you want, when you want and with whom you want. Being single is all about you. It is a special time to be true to yourself and be a little selfish. "You" is at the crux of embracing your single life.

Below are 10 reasons to embrace the fact that you are not in a relationship and love your single life.

1. When you are single, you can do whatever it is that you love, without having to compromise for someone Else's needs or desires. There is nothing you have to give up. You can indulge in your guilty pleasures or just simply be yourself without having to give up any part of your pleasure in order to codify someone else.

2. Not only do you not have to give up your pleasures, but neither do you have to explain or justify to anyone why it is you like doing them. This is liberating. Be yourself, no ifs ands or buts about it.

3. Guilt is something that we can definitely do without. But, so much of our relationships revolve around guilt. The aformentioned compromising and explaining are often things we do to protect our relationship from it's demise. We fear the loss. Instead of embracing impermanence and remembering what joys singlehood can bring, we often feel bad and guilty about our "selfish" ways. This leads to self- compromising behaviors.

4. No jealousy or insecurity, Jealousy can come from you or your partner. When you celebrate your singlehood, jealousy and insecurity about other people fall down by the wayside. Who cares anymore? The most important person has become you. The ability to live and let live suddenly becomes within your reach.

5. Partners not only want explanations and compromise, but they also may be jealous of your friends? Perhaps, they may limit the time you have to spend with friends. In many ways friends are more important than our partners. They are there for us when our relationships hit turbulence. Being single is a great time to nurture your friendships. So, hang out with your most friends and feel not guilt about it.

6. So often people lose themselves in other people, in their partner or in their relationship. Who are you? What is special about you? Singlehood is when you can really let yourself shine and be who you are meant to be. Try to discover yourself.

7. The crux of singlehood is the freedom to do what you want, when you want, how you want, why you want and with whom. There is no one to answer to, explain, justify and compromise for. This independence should be embraced. You want a quiet evening at home or an entire week of solitude. It is all yours. Just say the word. The act of self-care is easy.

8. Being single affords you the ability to pursue your dreams. Want to travel the world? Guess what? Being single makes these types of dreams much easier. No one to hold you back, Single people can do the things that those in relationships cannot.

9. You do not have to ever pay for anyone else. You make your own money.  no one telling you how to spend your money and no one asking you where your money went. Spend your money the way you want.
 
10. Singles don't have to explain why they feel happy, sad, angry, tired, moody, crabby or frustrated to anyone. Feel free to feel every emotion you have inside of you and not have to respond to anyone else about them.

This the time to enjoy the real you....Share with me what you think about single-hood.

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I'm The Other Woman And Loving Your Husband Hurts ME, Too

WRITTEN BY; Alex Alexander 
 
After all this time, I still hope he leaves you.

I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine. We sit across from one another at the Greasy Spoon diner, reaching over the table to touch hands, caressing thumbs with the tenderness of a violin player. We must be touching, always touching. We joke and laugh, we talk, we sit in pure adoration. I know every inch of his face and he knows every inch of mine. I order his food (one Belgium waffle on the soft side, a plate of crispy bacon) and he orders mine (a short stack, no butter, a bowl of fruit, a side of extra crispy bacon). We sit, together in our love, relishing every second.
A car pulls up outside and warrants his cursory glance. The glance holds on a bit too long. The couple in the car comes inside and he follows their every move. They sit two booths behind us. He stares for a moment, then snatches his hands back from the table. The divot in his ring finger catches the light, reminding me of the torture I so often hide when we’re together. He fumbles in his pocket, quick with fear, and slips his platinum wedding band back on his finger. My heart is in shambles. We get the bill and pay for our unfinished food. Outside, he apologizes. I say nothing and drive home alone in tears.
You would think after three years of dating a married man, I would be used to this.
But it still stings just as much as the first time we ran into a relative of his and I had to “hide behind the oranges” in the grocery store. In truth, this was an infrequent occurrence. Maybe that made it worse? I’ll never know for sure. I suppose the fault is mine. If I had never let things progress, I wouldn’t feel the hurt tugging on my heartstrings when we needed to disguise our relationship or feel the jealousy when he went home to his wife, as he always did.
So why did I do it? Why does anyone do it? At the start of it all, the perks of the situation swam happily in my mind. Imagine the freedom! Imagine the absence of committed responsibility! I was a secure, confident woman and was not willing to compromise my life for a relationship and everything that came with it. Like most modern women, I felt I only needed a man for one thing, and a coupled lifestyle was not that thing. So I figured, who better than a married man? Moreover, a married man with kids! He had his responsibilities with his wife and family. There would be no awkward morning-afters, no constant phone calls or texts. I could have all the space I wanted and I would hear no complaints from his end. It would be easy and stress-free.
But what started out as a simple, no-strings-attached relationship (or at least the illusion of one) evolved into much more. You can never have your cake and eat it too. Maybe it was the jolt of electricity we both felt when we first met and shook hands or maybe it was our mutual understanding of the others troubles. Either way, we grew to rely on one another. We became each others go-to when one of us needed support. And the casual friendship-with-benefits morphed into a caring, loving relationship. I could see the aurora dancing in his eyes when he saw me, and he could see the sparkle in mine. We knew each other inside and out, our lives so intertwined we were hard to tell apart.
But I didn’t count on the pitfalls of this type of relationship.
I thought I had it all figured out. I didn’t expect to grow to need him. I didn’t expect to miss him when we weren’t together, I didn’t expect to become so attached to his children that they felt like family, and I definitely didn’t expect to fall in love. Or for him to fall in love with me. What I thought could be something simple ended up being a stressor. We had to hide. Our time together was constantly cut short so his wife wouldn’t find out. I was jealous and angry and crazily in love, and at times, so hurt I could barely stand. I hate being second in line, yet I was. He would tell me grand stories about how we’d be together full-time someday. He would leave her and be with me. A small part of me believed him, but the rest of me knew better. Yet still I stayed. We had such an intense connection that I was convinced living without him would be so much worse than enduring the agony of sharing my man.
Like most everything else in my life, our relationship became punctuated by song lyrics I felt described our situation.
Sugarland, “Stay”: It’s too much pain to have to bear / to love a man you have to share.
The Wreckers, “Leave the Pieces”: You say you don’t wanna hurt me, don’t wanna see my tears / so why are you still standing here just watching me drown … You not making up your mind / is killing me and wasting time.
Nickel Creek, “I Should’ve Known Better”: Your love meant trouble from the day we met / you won every hand, I lost every bet.
Zac Brown Band, “Colder Weather”: And wonders if her love is strong enough to make him stay / She's answered by the tail lights / Shining through the window pane.
Listening to them made me feel better. It reassured me someone went through the same things I did, that I wasn’t alone in my torture. But even through the music, I could feel things starting to fall apart. I began to obsess over his life with her. What were they doing? Where were they going? Was he having more fun with her than with me? What was so great about her anyway? Our love for each other stayed strong, but the relationship had collapsed. I knew what I had to do, as much as I tried to ignore it.
On an unseasonably warm March evening, I ended it.
The chill had left the air and incoming Spring filled me with the power and motivation to do the hardest thing I knew I needed to do. My tears fell as fast as the first thunderstorm of the year.
“What are you saying?” he asked me. “I think I’m breaking up with you,” I said.
“Maybe you should think about it more,” he pressed. I told him, “I won’t come to any different conclusion. It’s over."
And that was it. There was no pomp and circumstance. Just plain cold truth. We spoke sparingly over the next few days and it eventually faded to no communication. In silence, my world was ending. I gave up on love, on life. I stayed in bed all day and didn’t eat. My friends and family were stuck. They didn’t know what was going on; all they knew was my seemingly unnecessary depression. I trudged back and forth to work amid discussions of counseling, tentative hugs and attempts at forcing me to eat. In the end, I was still broken. The only thing worse than bearing that heavy a weight alone is carrying it yourself.
And then he called.
He wanted me to know his wife knew everything. That he loved me and couldn’t function without me. But he wasn’t ready. Could I wait, please. He needed me. He would be with me when his kids started school again. He would be with me in September. Yes, of course I would wait. He was my love.
The next few months were a whirlwind of elation and doubt. We were together nearly every day, as together as a hidden relationship allows you to be. He talked of long-term dreams, about our future house and trips we would take and having kids eventually. My heart longed for it and wanted to trust him. My brain knew better. I sat by, clinging to hope, and watched him as he bought new furniture with his wife. They got a new car. He hired a landscaper and started repairs on his house. I became a Monday through Friday, nine to five girlfriend. For those forty hours a week that his wife was working, he was mine. He loved me and worshiped me and spoke of our future. But September came and September passed. The sun and moon rose and fell. And I was still alone.
He told me we’d be together in September. So every first of September, I wait. I go to the same Greasy Spoon diner and I wait for him. For my love. And as the years go by, my hope does not wane. It naively stays strong. Maybe one day, after all the lost time, he will join me and my September will come.

THINGS EVERY PERSON HATES

In my year of experience, I believe and think there are somethings that almost everybody hates or let me say I never heard of anyone enjoying. Almost everyone hates;

 1. Traffic.
 2. Morning alarms.
 3. Other person's snoring.
 4. Doing dishes.
 5. Low battery.
 6. Folding shirts.
 7. Small talk. 
 8. Queuing.
 9. Interruption.
10. Facebook group chats.
11. Bags of chips really being bags of air
12. Homework
13. Mosquitoes
14. Walking up or down a stair
15.Low battery

Share with me what you think everybody hates.

KEEP YOUR DIGESTIVE SYSTEM HEALTHY

The digestive system is one of the most important components of the human body. It  is uniquely designed to break down the foods that we eat into the nutrients our body needs to survive.

One of the best ways to maintain a healthy digestive system is to gear our diet towards maintaining it. Below are ways that dieting affects our digestion. Taking them into consideration will maintain efficient digestion, increase your sense of well being, and improve your overall health.

1. Stick to a high fiber diet;
Fiber is one of the most important nutrients for a healthy digestive system. No matter the particular type of diet we have, always strive to include fiber as a large part of it. Fiber is present in foods such as whole grains, vegetables, legumes, and fruits. It helps move food through our digestive track (reducing constipation) as well as preventing health problems like hemorrhoids and irritable bowel syndrome. Maintaining a high fiber diet can even help us lose weight.

2. Consume both insoluble and soluble fiber;
There are two primary types of fiber and we need both of them to keep our digestive system healthy. The two types of fiber are insoluble and soluble fiber. Insoluble fiber is found in foods such as vegetables, and whole grains. You can find soluble fiber in foods such as oat, nuts, seeds, and legumes.

3. Reduce high fat foods; 
Fatty foods aren’t very good for us. Sure, we need a little fat to survive but too much of it can cause a number of health problems, not to mention that it isn’t very good for your waistline. Fat can also affect the digestion by slowing it down. It is best to limit the amount of high fat foods we eat and when we do eat them to pair them with something that is high in fiber.

4. Take lean meats;
Protein is an essential part of a healthy diet. One of the easiest ways to get protein is by eating meat. However, eating fatty cuts of meat is no good at all. It can lead to uncomfortable digestion. It is best to stick with lean cuts whenever we eat meat.
 
5. Add Probiotics to your diet;
It is a myth that all bacteria is unhealthy. In fact, there are lots of bacteria that are great for our body. Probiotics are one type of healthy bacteria. They affect digestion by enhancing nutrient absorption, breaking down lactose, and strengthening the immune system. They can even help treat irritable bowel syndrome. Low-fat yogurt and kefir are both solid sources of probiotic bacteria.

6. Don't skip meal;
One of the best dieting tricks of all time is to stick to a regular eating schedule. Consuming your meals at the same time each day will help keep your digestive system in tiptop shape. Aim to schedule your meals as close to the same time as possible from one meal to the next.

7. Drink water;
Another highly effective dieting tip is to make sure we drink plenty of water. Staying hydrated is one of the keys to losing weight as well as promoting the overall health of our digestion. Water helps break down fats and fiber in our body, allowing these foods to pass through our body more easily.

8. Skip alcohol and smoking;
Bad habits like smoking and the excessive consumption of caffeine and alcohol can wreak havoc on the body. It’s a smart idea to stay away from all of these as much as possible. They interfere with the smooth functioning of the digestive system and can eventually lead to problems like stomach ulcers.

9. Exercise regularly; 
Regular exercise is essential if we want to keep our digestive system in great working order. Exercising on a regular basis actually helps move food through the digestive track. It greatly reduces constipation and helps maintain a healthy weight. Moreover, it’s an effective way to tone our body.

10. Fight stress;
Stress can negatively affect our digestion. It is important to limit stress as much as possible in addition to eating well and exercising regularly. Fortunately, the three things go hand in hand. Both exercise and a healthy diet fight stress.

WHY IT IS NOT HEALTHY TO EAT TOO MUCH RICE

Happy Sunday,

Growing up I eat rice pretty much everyday, its like my main meal. I was reading a book today and I saw why its not healthy to eat too much, so I thought of sharing.

Rice provides good source of energy in the form of carbohydrate,
One of the biggest reasons why rice, especially white rice, is not that healthy is because they contain extremely high levels of carbohydrates which is extremely bad for your body and health. Too much carbohydrates make you gain weight and decreases our metabolism levels. As a result, people think rice as a healthy food that can help them lose weight. However, in reality, the opposite is true. Rice helps you gain weight and in turn, you are completely the opposite of what you want.

Another reason why rice is not that healthy is because it can clog up your blood vessels. Because rice contains a lot of carbohydrates, it can generate more and more fat in the blood vessels and make them smaller and smaller and in the end, clogging them up. Clogging up your blood vessels can lead to deadly circumstances. Therefore, it is important that you do not over eat rice.

With that being said, it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t be eating rice. Rice is still a very healthy food. It is just that if you eat too much, it will become unhealthy. Rice does contain many benefits such as for your brain and skeletal structure. Avoid eating white rice and try brown rice which will be much healthier. All in all, rice has its benefits and downfalls.

My Opinion;
The safety of rice consumption seems to vary greatly based on the individual, cultural background and what the rest of the diet looks like. 
Where do you stand on rice taking?

WAYS TO TREAT ACNE SCARS

You can’t go back in time and stop yourself from popping a pimple that caused that big scar on your forehead, but there are many options to treat those acne scars. Sure, you should consult your dermatologist before trying out any tips. They will definitely find the best solution for you. But here are some tips to treat them;

1. Prevent scars from the beginning;
Never pop, squeeze, or pick at a pimple or scab. Popping one once in a while might not result in scarring, but you will never know until it heals. Use a good skincare routine to heal and prevent acne. Keep your skin moisturized and use antibacterial products to prevent infections.

2. Cortisone fade cream;
Cortisone is used to help reduce redness and itchiness. It is also used in fade creams to diminish scars. Get a product that can help reduce scarring with new wounds or pimples,or the appearance of old scars. Consult your doctor before using any cortisone fade cream.

3. Laser treatment;
If you’re serious about getting rid of scars, laser treatment is probably one of the most effective options. There are several different types of laser treatments used for scars. Some only treat 15 to 20% of the skin but with nearly the same results as a laser that treats the entire scar. Lasers can sometimes be accompanied with pain, but they are most effective at smoothing out the skin.

4. Filler treatments;
Some scars are raised above the level of the skin, and others pit deep into the skin. Dermal fillers are often used to fill in scar tissue. The problem with filler treatments is that they are temporary. You must continue to use the product to maintain the results. However, it is usually a less expensive option than laser treatments.

5. Time;
Some scars will go away with time. Small scars can take months or years to fade completely. Red scars will usually fade to skin color over time even if it doesn’t disappear altogether. Keep moisturizing your skin and let time do its work.

6. Maderma;
Mederma is ideal for new scars, but it can be used to help reduce the appearance of old scars as well. If Mederma is applied regularly, it can reduce redness and discoloration, and it can reduce the amount of scar tissue that forms on the skin.

7. Moisturize;
Moisturizing with a lotion full of healthy ingredients such as aloe vera or shea butter can help reduce the appearance of scarsr. Keep the skin moist while acne heals to reduce the possibility for scarring. Old scars will likely not be affected by moisturizing. Drinking more water is more important because it moisturizes the skin from the inside out.

8. Bio Oil;
Bio Oil is a product that is fairly inexpensive and can be applied to your skin once or twice a day. Some people say it has faded acne scars and sun spots. Even if it doesn’t fade scars, it will moisturize your skin.

9. Scrubs;
Your skin is constantly regenerating skin cells. If the old skin cells sit on top of the new skin, your skin will look dull. Using a gentle scrub will peel away the top layer revealing what is underneath. Just as acne scars can fade over time, scrubs can help speed up the process by revealing the new skin underneath.

10.Nutrition;
Nutrition is the most important aspect of acne scar treatment. Your skin needs certain nutrients in order to rebuild new, fresh skin to replace the scar tissue. Take a multivitamin everyday that has plenty of B vitamins necessary to rebuild skin. Include foods in your diet high in omega 3s such as grass fed meats, wild caught fish, and coconut oil. Eat lots of vegetables and drink water every day.

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE PREGNANT

Are you pregnant? Check out these pregnancy symptoms below to see if you have been experiencing any of them.

1. Nausea or morning sickness: Morning sickness is term to describe nausea and vomiting during pregnancy. This occurs in approximately 50% to 95% of all pregnant women as early as the first week of pregnancy. Morning sickness probably got it's name due to the fact that most of the nauseating symptoms start in the morning right after you get out of bed when your blood sugar levels are low. However, it may happen at any time of the day.

2. Headaches: If you have never experienced regular headaches before pregnancy, be prepared for some throbbing pain in your head and neck during pregnancy. Changes in your body's hormonal patterns is the primary cause of headaches during pregnancy. Other conditions like lack of sleep, poor posture, stress, dehydration and low blood sugar levels may also worsen of cause headaches.

3. Dizziness and fainting spells: Due to the lowered blood pressure in your body during pregnancy, blood flow to the brain may cause dizziness and fainting spells in serious cases.

4. Mood swings: With your hormones raging, it is common for women to feel moody during their pregnancy. All women have to go through a period of adjustment to settle into their new roles as a pregnant women and that takes time.

5. Fatigue: If you feel tired and experience some or all of the symptoms mentioned in this article, you have a good chance of being pregnant. Hormonal changes are usually the main cause of fatigue followed by the additional weight you have to carry around.

6. Food cravings: Craving for food that you normally would not eat could be a sign that you are pregnant. Normally, women report cravings for salty and sweet food during pregnancy while others report a uncommon desire for spicy or starchy food.

7. Weight gain and bloating: The combination of your baby's growth and your increased food intake will cause you to put on weight and your clothes to fit tighter than usual. An inexplicable increase in size of your stomach is also a definitive sign that you may be pregnant.

8. Heartburn: Hormones created during pregnancy may relax the lower esophageal sphincter (LES), which opens the valve to allow stomach acids to flow up into the esophagus causing a burning sensation.

9. Lower back pain: As your baby grows in size, the additional weight pulls your spine to the front of your body and causes you to experience some back pain from time to time.

10. Constipation: Hormonal changes during pregnancy slows down the movement of food through your digestive system which results in constipation. This could be a sign of pregnancy if you do not experience constipation frequently.

11. Constant urination: Your growing baby in the uterus puts a lot of pressure on your bladder and you may find yourself visiting the toilet more frequently than usual.

12. High Basal Body Temperature (BBT): If your BTT stays in the high temperature range for 18 days or more, you have a good chance of being pregnant.

13. Cramping: As the uterus grows and stretches, it is normal to feel cramps that feel similar to menstrual cramps.

14. Spotting: Slight bleeding occurs when the fertilized egg begins to implant itself into the uterus any time from 3 to 6 days after fertilization. This usually happens outside of a normal menstruation cycle so it should not be confused with a normal period.

15. Darkening of the areolas: Your areolas could darken and increase in diameter during pregnancy. This is caused by your body's preparation for your breasts to produce milk.

16. Tender or swollen breasts: A lot of women experience sore, swollen, tingly or tender breasts during pregnancy due to the increasing hormones that are used to prepare a woman for breastfeeding. This feels like a amplified version of how your breast feels before your period.

17. Missed periods: If you have been sexually active and you missed a period, it is a good indication that are you are pregnant. A pregnancy test should be taken to confirm if the missed period is really caused by your pregnancy.

18. Positive pregnancy tests: Only a positive urine test or blood test can give you solid indication that you are pregnant. The problem is, they may not be fool proof. Remember to visit a doctor to conduct further tests to confirm the results.

It is important to remember that not all of the symptoms above can confirm a pregnancy. When you have a positive pregnancy test, visit a doctor to get more tests done to confirm your pregnancy. That's the only way to find out if you are truly pregnant. 


source;Google.

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Bad Habits That Make Your Boobs Sag

1. You wear the wrong size bra;The more your boobs bounce around, the more stressed breast skin and collagen become.

2. You don't drink enough water;
Skipping water can make your skin appear rough and shrunken, and not just on your face.

3. You don't protect your breasts from the sun;
 Exposing your face to UV rays without a protective coating of sunscreen can lead to premature wrinkles, and it has the same effect on breast sag by stretching out collagen and damaging skin.

4. You smoke;
Any amount of smoking weakens and ages skin by decreasing the blood supply to the skin surface

5. Dieting; 
If you're a yo-yo dieter, your breasts are going to suffer. Your skin loses elasticity when it's stretched. And when you lose weight, the first place you'll slim down is in your boobs because they're mostly fat.  

THINGS TO KNOW ABOUT CARROTS

Carrots belongs to the species daucus carota, you can find carrots all around the world, as they remain a star vegetable in many cuisines. What do you really know about this biannual plant? Here are 10 interesting facts that will make you want to eat this vegetable even more.

 1. Carrots were first grown in Afghanistan
 2. Crème de Lite, Long Orange and Scarlet Nantes are all types of carrots
 3. Baby carrots aren't a type of carrot
 4. You can leave them in the ground all winter
 5. Carrots are made up of 88 percent water
 6. Carrots come in many colors
 7. Cooking carrots is better for you than eating raw carrots
 8. Carrots contain the richest sources of beta-carotene
 9. Carrots have seeds
10. Carrots have sugar in them.

Benefits of Carrots;

• Improves vision
• Helps prevent cancer
• Slows down aging  
• Promotes healthier skin 
• Helps prevent infection 
• Promotes healthier skin
• Prevents heart disease
• Prevents stroke
• Protects teeth and gums
• Cleanses the body       

It's not just a vegetable, it's what a vegetable should be.

Eat your beans

                       

                                                Beans, beans,
                                        they're good for your heart
                                              The more you eat, 
                                            the more you fart
                              The more you fart, the happier you feel
                                    So let's eat beans with every meal.
 
If you can't remember the last time you ate beans,you are not alone o. Beans may get a bad rap for making people gassy, but that's no reason to cut them out of your diet. Beans are nutritional powerhouses, especially for those people who don't eat animal products.
Beans are a tasty, nutritious and economically efficient way to meet nutrition needs. Beans are high in protein and soluble fiber, and a good source of vitamins and minerals. They also are an essential source of protein, iron and zinc for vegetarians. Diets rich in soluble fiber are associated with improved blood glucose control and blood cholesterol levels, and many help fight heart disease.

Ways to eat your beans;
Add beans to salads,soups,stews,salsa.

Reasons to eat your beans;

Delicious
Versatility 
Easy to cook
Weight control
Reduce cancer risk

Remember to eat your beans, Try it out and let me know the difference it makes for you.








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20 Ways To Be Good To Yourself Today

1. CHOOSE YOU; Choosing ourselves, even if it means upsetting others and not being popular anymore. Even if it means we leave a party before anyone else because we feel tired, overwhelmed, or just plain feel done with the crowd.

2. BE TRUE; Telling what is true for us, not swallowing words that express what we truly feel, think, or want to do.

3. TRUST YOUR BODY WELL; Giving our body the nurturing, rest, exercise, and comfort it needs to the best of our ability.

4. WEAR CLOTHES THAT MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD; Wearing clothes that make us feel good and fit our personality instead of wearing clothes that are in fashion that we use to impress others.

5. BUILD A LIFE YOU LOVE; Building a life that we love while we are single instead of waiting for our prince/princess to show up to explore life and to be happy.

6. ACCEPT THE GOOD AND BAD; Accepting ourselves with the good, the bad, the ugly, the sexy, and the smelly — all of it — and appreciating ourselves as whole people.

7. MAKE TIME;Making time to do whatever we love, just to play, without worrying about wasting time.

8. OWN YOUR BEAUTY; Owning our inner and outer beauty and complimenting ourselves without feeling guilty, arrogant, or entitled.

9. DON'T LOOK BACK; Not rehashing our past mistakes and dragging ourselves to a dark place when we know that we can only learn from the past; we can't change it.

10. SPEND TIME WITH YOURSELF; Spending some quality, connected time with ourselves instead of always watching TV or wasting time on the Internet.

11. TRUST YOUR PATH; Trusting the path that our soul is on and making a genuine effort to become a conscious co-creator of our destiny.

12. LOOK FOR WAYS TO HEAL; Not blaming our parents for our current issues, and looking for ways to heal our wounds and change our dysfunctional patterned behaviors by reaching out to ministers, therapists, coaches, and healers.

13. FOLLOW YOUR INTUITION; Following what our gut/intuition says instead of living out of our brain and ego.

14. KEEP YOURSELF IN CHECK; Staying in our integrity, both when it comes to ourselves and when interacting with others out in the world. This includes keeping ourselves in check regarding patterns such as lying, manipulating, co-depending, withholding, and pretending.

15. DREAM BIG; Allowing ourselves to dream big, without contaminating these dreams with judgments, our perceived limitations, or a lack of sense of deserving.

16. KNOW WHERE YOUR ENERGY GOES; Knowing how we're spending our emotional, mental, financial, and physical energy, and whether these activities bring back joy, connection, nurturing, rest, and creativity to our lives.

17. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY; Taking responsibility for all of our experiences. Knowing that we have the ability for deeper self-awareness and access to our intuition when it comes to making life choices.

18. DON'T LABEL YOURSELF; Not labeling ourselves with others' opinions of us, while having the courage to look inside to see if there might be some truth to them.

19.USE DISCRETION WITH OTHERS; Using discretion when sharing our heart, self, and dreams with others.

20. LOVE YOURSELF EVEN WHEN YOU FAIL; Loving and accepting ourselves even when we fail miserably at some of these self-love goals.
No one else can offer these things to us. No one else can take our vitamins for us or prevent us from going into a self-loathing attack.
Even if we land the best partner on the planet, this person won’t be able to make us happy and feel loved unless we create the space for it inside by practicing self-love. This is why self-love is an inside job.

#My opinion#.......Satisfy your girl....

 

Listen up, guys. It’s time to start pleasing your ladies, while you think you might be pleasing her, more often than not, you’re missing the mark. Ladies know that most guys want them to reach O-land, and they don't want to disappoint, So all too often, they fake orgasms, or just let their partner assume they had one. If you want to guarantee the real deal, stick to these positions that will work every time and she will never fake it again.
 
1. Missionary
Women get the most pleasure out of basic missionary sex. Interestingly, good old-fashioned missionary position was the overall favorite. There's nothing fancy about it, but ladies said they loved the closeness and the intimacy of having their partner's weight on them. But in order for position to be most effective, to make sure you’re entering her at the correct angle. By going in diagonally—rather than straight in and out—there’s more friction for clitoral stimulation, that’s how most women achieve orgasm.

2. Reverse Cowgirl
In this position, the man is either lying down or in a sitting position, and the female straddles him backwards — facing his feet instead of his face. It’s a key position that also allows easy access to the clitoris. Because of the easier clitoral access, this position is the one that is most likely to facilitate an orgasm because direct clitoral stimulation is easy to engage in.
 
3. Doggie Style
Doggie style is a great position for the woman because it allows her to have optimal control. She is able to adjust her range of motion for an angle that feels best, He can likely stimulate her G-spot and have access to her clitoris with his hand, her hand or a toy, like a small bullet-shaped vibrator, also stresses the importance of clitoral stimulation while in the doggie style position. She will rarely have an orgasm if you’re not doing something manually in front at the same time.

4. Girl on Top
Another position that allows her to have the most control of her orgasm is when she’s the one on top, facing forward. But it still needs to be a joint effort. You can help her by moving her hips up and down. It’s a communication thing, when the woman is on top, she’s in control of the depth and motion, as well as having easy access to her clitoris for pleasure.

 
 5. Spooning
If your lady doesn’t prefer deep penetration, Spooning is also good if you’re into lazy. It concentrates on stimulation of the front portion of the vagina or rectum, which is where the most nerves are located in the genitals. Spooning is pleasurable because it creates a tighter fit in the vagina and rectum, so if a woman is looking for more stimulation from her partner’s fingers or penis... spoon away.
 
6. Crisscross
This is another great position for clitoral stimulation. Both partners are lying down. The woman is on her back and the guy is on his side. She has her legs draped over his middle like a giant X. Since your bodies aren't squished against each other, either you or she can reach down to rub her clitoris, what most women need to reach the Big O.
That positions often become more pleasurable for a woman when a pillow or blanket is added to create a new angle of entry. Put a pillow under her tush to give a pelvic lift. That can also help the man rub her g-spot with his penis.

8. Coital Alignment Technique
This position, is considered by many to be the “greatest sex position in the world.” Start in a normal missionary position with your full body weight on top of the woman, not resting on your elbows. Move forward so that the base of your penis is making direct contact with her clitoris. Her legs should be around your thighs and you should be moving together in a rhythmic, rocking motion. This position allows for the closest physical connection and the best clitoral stimulation based on his positioning.
 
9. Ankles Up
When you’re on top of somebody or flat, you can’t always achieve full penetration which is why adjusting her leg positioning allows for deeper contact. You have to put her ankles up over your shoulders. It allows you to go as deep inside of her as possible and hit her G-spot. The same deepness can also be achieved by her bending her knees or placing the soles of her feet on your chest.

AND ITS MONDAY AGAIN !!!

                                                          


                                       


hello lovelies,

Its Monday again *frown face*....... chaii if Monday had a face, I would have punch it.... How was the weekend at your end??? Mine wasn't bad.

Monday is not the day to be back at grindstone, Monday is the  day to be back at your passion.

Monday is your first chance in the week to have a great start! The weekend just finished, you partied too much, or rested too much, and you certainly didn't want it to end. Don't worry though, you'll have plenty of weekends to come, enjoy this Monday and give your week the perfect jump start that it needs!

5 Stages of getting ready for work on Monday morning; 

1. Denial
2. Anger
3. Bargaining
4. Depression
5. Acceptance           

 Ok Monday, letx do this!

10 TIPS FOR BATTLING DRY LIPS

                         

Hello lovelies,how is the weather at your end? Letx talk,

How well do you know your lips? They help you eat, speak, whistle and kiss,  Do you know they're sensitive and thin-skinned?

Our skin is made up of three layers: the epidermis, the dermis and a subcutaneous fat layer. The stratum corneum tops the epidermis as a protective layer (against bacteria, moisture loss, heat and light), but the skin on our lips is much thinner than the skin covering most of our body -- in fact, on our lips this protective layer is four to five times thinner compared than the skin on our face. And because there are no sweat glands or hair follicles on our lips, they don't get the same kind of natural protection that skin on other areas of our body does.

The loss of natural oils may happen due to exposure to sun, cold dry winds or even repeated licking. Chapped lips are dry, red and painful. They may split and bleed causing immense discomfort. So, treating dry, chapped lips can be tricky. Keeping them soft and smooth may seem like a constant battle, but here are 10 tips to help keep your lips pretty and plump;

Hydrate your body by drinking plenty of water. Dehydration can cause dryness of lips. Increase your water intake to keep your lips looking fresh. You can also humidify the rooms to deal with dryness.
 
Balms: Serious Lip Service; 
Lip balms can bring a smile to even the sorest dry lips; they build a barrier between your lips' mucus membranes and the outside world, helping lock must-have moisture in.
Remember to apply just a thin coat of lip balm.
 
Soft toothbrush; Use a soft toothbrush to softly buff your lips to remove the deposit of dead cells that will cause more drying and flaking.
 
Stop Licking Your Chops;
Licking your lips may seem like an easy way to moisten things up, but it actually does more harm than good. Lips usually lack the protective outer membrane found on most other skin, so adding moisture that easily evaporates seconds later creates a vicious cycle that can dry lips out very quickly.
 
Avoid Some Ingredients; Did you know that ingredients in some of the products you use every day may be contributing to your chapped lips? Toothpastes and other oral care products may contain sodium lauryl sulfate (an ingredient that is added to products that are sudsy, from toothpaste to facial cleansers to shampoo) as well as guaiazulene (a color additive), both associated with skin irritation and dermatitis in some people. And lip balms themselves may also contain potential irritants. Fragrances and flavors added to lipsticks and lip balms may also trigger skin allergies -- and that includes menthol, cinnamon, citrus and mint.

Don't Be a Mouth Breather;
Mouth breathing is another no-no, for similar reasons to the ones that make lip licking a bad idea. So keep your mouth shut and let your nose take the reins -- that's one of the reasons it's there, after all.
 
Exfoliate Your Kisser; 
Exfoliating removes the flaky, dry skin that can build up on chapped lips, revealing smoother, softer skin underneath. There are a few ways you can go about lip exfoliation
Gently rub your lips with a dampened soft washcloth or toothbrush, or use a lip scrub to remove dead skin. Some lip balms can also help with exfoliation.

Wet Your Whistle; The best way is for you to stay hydrated. That means drinking lots of water -- generally about eight glasses a day -- to keep you moisture levels balanced. Remember: If you feel thirsty, you're already dehydrated.
 
Take Your Vitamins; Drinking enough water will ensure that your lips get moisture from the inside out, but sometimes, chapped, dry or cracked lips are actually a result of a vitamin deficiency.Take multivitamins/mineral supplement.

When all Else fails, see a Doctor.